Debunking Myths About Summer Camp
by Maya CohenThinking about sending your kids to overnight summer camp, but unsure of what to expect? We dispel common myths about camp, so you can confidently send your children packing this summer. For many children, summer camp activities are the most fun they'll have all year!
1. Camp is for the children of wealthy parents; I can't afford it.
Actually, there are a number of financial options for kids who wish to attend overnight summer camp. Scholarships and discounts for families that qualify are typically offered by private camps, and numerous nonprofit organizations exist to provide all children with an opportunity to spend some time at summer camp. The U.S. government also cushions the cost with certain financial and tax benefits for day-camp attendees. Also, tuition varies drastically from camp to camp. Don't assume that expensive camps are better! Keep in mind that you are searching for a place that will suit your child and provide him with a fantastic camp experience. You don't need to have deep pockets to make your kid's summer.
2. My child gets homesick easily, so he should attend a sleepaway camp that is close to home.
It is important to find the right camp for your child, but location should not factor in. Camp is a microcosm; your child enters an entirely new world – jam-packed with exciting summer activities – that seems to exist independent of the external world. A camper should be immersed in the camp environment, not thinking constantly of home and the distance between the two. Also, proximity is essentially irrelevant, because camps do not typically allow parents to visit except on designated days – parents are not allowed to drop by when they choose. Make sure you choose a camp with the right priorities in mind, and leave concerns about distance at home.
3. My child should attend sleepaway camp with a friend or a sibling.
Sending your child to camp with a buddy is a tricky decision, and you should weigh all facts carefully before coming to a conclusion. First, remember that what works for a friend or a sibling won't necessarily work for your child. When choosing a camp, keep your child's needs in mind and don't automatically assume that he will be happy where his friends are. Also, camp presents an entirely unknown social stratosphere. Old, familiar relationships may take on new characteristics within a fresh context, which can cause tension between friends. Consider also that your child may be ready to explore different elements of his character at camp. Perhaps he wishes to come out of his shell and try being friendly and outgoing, rather than the shy student he is at school. Surrounded by familiar faces, he may be bogged down by his customary role and feel unable to develop.
4. My special needs child has no camp options.
These days, camp is for everyone. Developmentally disabled children can choose from numerous options and enjoy a wonderful time at summer camp. Children with ADHD, dyslexia, learning disorders, and physical and mental handicaps can benefit from working with counselors who are trained to help them. Your child will welcome the opportunity to spend time with other children and participate in summer camp activities. Be sure to do detailed research on facilities and staff.
5. A letter from my child indicates that he is unhappy at sleepaway camp.
It is always unpleasant to hear that your child is unhappy at sleepaway camp, but before you rush to pull him out and bring him home, take a close and careful look at the situation. Is this the first time that your child has described a troubling experience? Have previous letters or phone calls indicated that your child was unhappy? Children typically feel intensely homesick after an unpleasant encounter that may later seem trivial, such as quarreling with a friend or being last in line at the canteen. Writing letters can be a way for them to vent anger and frustration that eventually dissipates. If you are concerned, call the camp director and ask to speak with your child's counselors to discuss the situation. Sending your child away to camp is an important decision that indicates a commitment; your child should understand that untangling himself from this "contract" should not be taken lightly. On the other hand, the purpose of camp is growth and fun. If your child is truly miserable, don't let him feel that he is imprisoned and without options.
6. I'll register my child at summer camp in the spring.
When it comes to camp registration, keep one fact in mind: the earlier the better. Rosters fill up quickly, so you should secure a place at camp for your child well in advance. Families that wish to take advantage of discounts or scholarships should be particularly mindful of time. Research camps early in the school year and be ready to register by winter. Otherwise you risk having a house full of kids moping around all summer long!
7. Camp is just for kids.
Why should kids have all the fun? Your entire family can enjoy a fantastic summer experience that will bring everyone closer. Shed the doldrums of your daily routine by stepping out of your comfort zone and into summer camp. Being outdoors and facing new challenges will help your family to bond and learn to cooperate better. Universities and colleges often provide summer programs for alumni and their families. Religious and secular community groups sometimes offer camps for families, as well. Do your research and find a summer experience that you can enjoy with your loved ones.
8. He is my child; I can contact him anytime I please.
Sometimes parents have a hard time understanding the rules and restrictions of summer camp. After all, this is your child, and you are accustomed to setting the rules. However, once you entrust your child to the camp officials, you must abide by the camp regulations. Camps typically do not allow parents to call their children, except on designated days. Campers are rarely allowed to have cell phones, and they are not given the opportunity to contact their parents regularly by telephone. However, letters are encouraged, and you should write to your child often. Some camps even allow you to fax letters to the main office, so that you can reach your child almost instantly. Remember that these rules are implemented for a purpose: Your child should be focused on having a great summer experience, not waiting for the next phone call. Rules differ from camp to camp, so be sure to discuss any restrictions with camp administrators.
